This subject relates to the hot topic in my life... Marriage...
Had a discussion on the same...arranged marriages (AM's) and love marriages (LM's)... are any of these better? In LM's the advantage is of knowing the person and hence taking a step ahead in the relationship is marriage. AM's are more of a gamble, where you gauge a person based on looks, education, family and all this in a few meetings.
But I believe a marriage is a total different ball game whether you know the person or no. Things change drastically as u actually start living with the person. His/her eating habits/ sleeping habits... you got to live with each other with all of it. In AM's there's the fun of discovering the person right from the scratch, whereas in LMs you expect certain things out of the person and if it doesn't happen that way... then trouble rings in...
I haven't checked the surveys for divorce rates... whether AM or LM have higher rates... but in general divorces seem to be on the rise... and I really think people give up too easily... but it also means that people are no longer ready to stay married just cause "you have to" ... they standing up for themselves... but I just hope they fight it out well before giving up...
All in all I just hope that it goes well for me... whenever it happens... people ask "are u ready for it?" and I am like "How can I be ever ready for a thing I have never known before ?"
Had a discussion on the same...arranged marriages (AM's) and love marriages (LM's)... are any of these better? In LM's the advantage is of knowing the person and hence taking a step ahead in the relationship is marriage. AM's are more of a gamble, where you gauge a person based on looks, education, family and all this in a few meetings.
But I believe a marriage is a total different ball game whether you know the person or no. Things change drastically as u actually start living with the person. His/her eating habits/ sleeping habits... you got to live with each other with all of it. In AM's there's the fun of discovering the person right from the scratch, whereas in LMs you expect certain things out of the person and if it doesn't happen that way... then trouble rings in...
I haven't checked the surveys for divorce rates... whether AM or LM have higher rates... but in general divorces seem to be on the rise... and I really think people give up too easily... but it also means that people are no longer ready to stay married just cause "you have to" ... they standing up for themselves... but I just hope they fight it out well before giving up...
All in all I just hope that it goes well for me... whenever it happens... people ask "are u ready for it?" and I am like "How can I be ever ready for a thing I have never known before ?"
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